On this Opposite Day, I thought it would be fun to talk about the types of traits that would NOT be a good match for working with me.

I don’t want to sell my coaching to anyone who wouldn’t work well with me because that would be frustrating for both of us. Instead, I’m trying to show what my coaching is like so you can decide whether or not we might work well together, and I’m OK with “or not.” For example, these two garden art roosters were a Mothers’ Day gift from my son, if you don’t like chickens then we’re probably not a good match because during video coaching sessions my chickens sometimes walk around outside the window behind me. My clients love them! But you may not.

We might not be well-matched if you’re not “compassion-driven.”

Compassion-driven people are not just compassionate in a passive sense, they actively seek positive change. Their compassion serves as a driving force for their commitment to continuous improvement, both for themselves and for the world around them. These are my people.

We might not be well-matched if you’re not willing to go deep.

Positivity can only get you so far. Inner strength develops through deep exploration of our emotions and experiences, and with the courage to embrace even the unpleasant ones. Shallow positivity offers momentary ease, but it's the willingness to go deep and understand the full range of feelings that leads to resilience. Being willing to sit with unpleasant emotions allows you to transform discomfort into a powerful catalyst for cultivating inner strength, making empowered decisions, and breaking free from the influence of other people’s judgments.

We might not be well-matched if you’re not willing to do work.

It’s one thing to have that amazing reframe which changes the rest of your life but transforming that thought into a permanent habit requires repetition—it requires doing work outside of our sessions. You need to do the work. However, you get to decide what your weekly goals will be, I can make suggestions but they’re only good if you like them. Ultimately you decide what your work is going to be, but you need to do it.

Think we might be a good match? Link to my website in my bio.

Additional:

In writing this I realized that when I was in my early to mid-twenties I would not have been a good client for myself because I didn’t have the capacity to go deep and embrace my unpleasant emotions. I didn’t start developing that until I was in my early thirties after certain life experiences happened.

If you kinda like my writings but you’re unsure if we would work well together, I invite you to continue reading my stuff and request my free workbook after it’s available.