How do you make human connections when you feel isolated?

Humans are social beings; we don’t do very well on our own. Four years ago this month, much of the world was deep in the Covid Lockdown, and a lot of people were missing those connections.

Even though the Lockdown is over and people are more comfortable going out, many still feel isolated. Here's a piece of advice I picked up years ago for older widowers facing extreme loneliness, but it works for anyone, I’ve used it myself when I’ve moved to a new town: establish a routine for shopping, activities, and errands by visiting the same places, at the same time of day, on the same day each week.

For example, do your grocery shopping at the same store Tuesday evening every week, and buy gas at the same gas station Thursday afternoons. If you vary your coffee shops, go to one coffee shop Mondays and Wednesdays, and go to the other one Tuesdays and Thursdays. Go to the gym the same time of day on the same days of the week. And so on.

Establishing such a routine helps you become familiar with the regular staff who work those shifts and also with other regular customers, plus it allows them to get to know you. While these interactions may not lead to deep friendships, they play a crucial role in increasing your sense of belonging and connection.

I've personally found that following this advice has a profound impact. When I have moved to a new town, I’ve made an effort to visit the same places regularly. Seeing familiar faces and being recognized by others made me feel like I belonged, and more integrated into my new community.

April’s theme is Resilience. When we feel tied to others, whether to a friend, neighbor, or familiar face, we gain a sense of security and inclusion that helps us bounce back from life's challenges. By nurturing these relationships, we improve our mental well-being and build the resilience needed to navigate life's ups and downs.

Meeting new people may seem daunting, but sometimes all it takes is a familiar face and a bit of small talk to feel connected. Building a supportive network starts with a simple 'hello' – take that step today.